I was thrilled to record an Instagram live with Mamamade founder Sophie Meislin Baron, where we discussed setting boundaries with family, work and tech – a topic that any of you who follow me on my own Instagram account will know I am passionate about.
We had a great response from followers, so I created an article on the subject for Mamamadefood.com: I thought I’d share an extract here, too.
Seven Tips for Setting Boundaries
1. Communicate boundaries clearly and concisely: for example that you can’t respond to emails out of hours, and that if there is something urgent, you would prefer a phone call.
2. Improve your own worth: when someone oversteps the mark, gently and calmly let them know. Stay strong and have confidence in your own boundaries; respect your own needs, time and energy.
3. Make your schedule clear – you may have previously worked late consistently and that is no longer possible, let your employer know and map out when you will be available. If you work flexibly, be sure to tell others your working hours – you can always add an email signature that outlines when you will be available to respond to messages (and also to communicate to others that there’s no expectation of response if you often work out of typical hours).
4. Once you set boundaries, you need to stick to them – be consistent. This is important.
5. Set boundaries with yourself and technology – if you check emails before bed, give yourself a strict cut-off time and put your laptop away in a cupboard. You could try deleting your email app from your phone over weekends, so you don’t check emails – unless you know you’re expecting something urgent. If you struggle with disconnecting from technology, think about how you’d feel if technology wasn’t imposing on your life – would you be relaxed or wound up? Would you be more present with your family?
6. Manage your time and energy: rather than using your most precious commodity (time) on things that don’t fulfill you, simply say ‘no thanks’. Spend time on things that restore and revitalise you. Many working Mums I meet are stretched so thin and aren’t doing things they enjoy or are passionate about.
7. If you struggle with people-pleasing, and saying yes to things you wish you hadn’t, slow down in the moment – rather saying yes or no straight away, say ‘let me go away and think about it and come back to you’. Give yourself the space to make the right decision for you.
Read More: Boundaries, Burnout and What You Can Do
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I recently shared an image on my Stories of writing my Imposter Syndrome script – cut up in lots of pieces and hand-scribbled notes everywhere.
According to one of Barack Obama’s speechwriters, they used to cut up and move around sections of his script until the structure was right. I was following the same process and it was liberating.
If you’ve got an upcoming speech or presentation, here are a few quick tips:
1. Start with your script, not your slides. Get clear on what you want to say first.
2. Know your message. What is the one message you want the audience to know/be left with. Get clear on this message as you are writing this script. Going for a walk helps too.
3. Spend the least amount of time on slides possible, rehearse instead.
4. Record yourself and watch it back. Yes it’s uncomfortable and at times painful, but you will learn A LOT.
Do you have other tips to add? What do you do to prepare for presentations?
#PresentingSkills #PresentationSkills #PresentationTips #PresentationSkillsTraining #KeepLearningKeepGrowing #newskillseveryday #growingthroughlife #failingislearning #youarecapable #CareerPlanning #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork
I recently shared an image on my Stories of writing my Imposter Syndrome script – cut up in lots of pieces and hand-scribbled notes everywhere.
According to one of Barack Obama’s speechwriters, they used to cut up and move around sections of his script until the structure was right. I was following the same process and it was liberating.
If you’ve got an upcoming speech or presentation, here are a few quick tips:
1. Start with your script, not your slides. Get clear on what you want to say first.
2. Know your message. What is the one message you want the audience to know/be left with. Get clear on this message as you are writing this script. Going for a walk helps too.
3. Spend the least amount of time on slides possible, rehearse instead.
4. Record yourself and watch it back. Yes it’s uncomfortable and at times painful, but you will learn A LOT.
Do you have other tips to add? What do you do to prepare for presentations?
#PresentingSkills #PresentationSkills #PresentationTips #PresentationSkillsTraining #KeepLearningKeepGrowing #newskillseveryday #growingthroughlife #failingislearning #youarecapable #CareerPlanning #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork
The only productivity trick that’s needed to stop you working evenings.
Get rid of the biggest distraction.
Do you do this?
Will you give it a go today?
Olivia
#ProductivityTips #ProductivityCoach #ProductivityTools #ProductivityHack #JFDI #JustGetItDone #OneThingAtATime #WorkSmarter #MakeItHappenToday #CreateALifeyouLove #LifeOfAWorkingMum #MumInBusiness #WorkingMumLife #CorporateWomen #WomenInLeadership #hrmanager #seniormanager #leaderscreateleaders #leadersoftomorrow #UKBusinessWomen #CareerGuidance #careerplanning
The only productivity trick that’s needed to stop you working evenings.
Get rid of the biggest distraction.
Do you do this?
Will you give it a go today?
Olivia
#ProductivityTips #ProductivityCoach #ProductivityTools #ProductivityHack #JFDI #JustGetItDone #OneThingAtATime #WorkSmarter #MakeItHappenToday #CreateALifeyouLove #LifeOfAWorkingMum #MumInBusiness #WorkingMumLife #CorporateWomen #WomenInLeadership #hrmanager #seniormanager #leaderscreateleaders #leadersoftomorrow #UKBusinessWomen #CareerGuidance #careerplanning
Is your biggest competitor your imposter?
Is she the one stopping you from getting where you need to be?
I`ve been doing a lot of work focusing in on helping clients dial down their imposter to find freedom and confidence.
And I`ve pulled together lots of the tips in a free download to help you overcome her.
Head to my bio and tap how strong is your imposter.
Olivia
#impostersyndrome #impostersyndromeisreal #comparisonfree #innercriticbegone #ComparisonFree #UKBusinessWomen #WomenInLeadership #WomeninLeadershipRoles #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #WorkWomen #femaleceo
#WorkingMummas #MumsWhoHustle #MumsThatWork
Is your biggest competitor your imposter?
Is she the one stopping you from getting where you need to be?
I`ve been doing a lot of work focusing in on helping clients dial down their imposter to find freedom and confidence.
And I`ve pulled together lots of the tips in a free download to help you overcome her.
Head to my bio and tap how strong is your imposter.
Olivia
#impostersyndrome #impostersyndromeisreal #comparisonfree #innercriticbegone #ComparisonFree #UKBusinessWomen #WomenInLeadership #WomeninLeadershipRoles #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #WorkWomen #femaleceo
#WorkingMummas #MumsWhoHustle #MumsThatWork
Do you struggle with imposter? If so you are not alone. And it is definitely more common than you think. 75% of women struggle.
Imposter feelings may make us doubt or question ourselves or you can have full-blown Imposter Syndrome where most days you wonder when you`ll be found out and asked to leave your job as luck only got you there, Time is spent wondering if you’re good enough.
I created the Imposter Syndrome quiz, to help you to understand how strong your Imposter is, along with some tips and tricks to help you and my story.
Get your quiz via the link in my bio.
Olivia
#impostersyndrome #impostersyndromeisreal #comparisonfree #innercriticbegone #ComparisonFree #FemaleFoundersCollective #WomenInLeadership #WomenInLeadershipRoles #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork #ValueYourselfFirst
Do you struggle with imposter? If so you are not alone. And it is definitely more common than you think. 75% of women struggle.
Imposter feelings may make us doubt or question ourselves or you can have full-blown Imposter Syndrome where most days you wonder when you`ll be found out and asked to leave your job as luck only got you there, Time is spent wondering if you’re good enough.
I created the Imposter Syndrome quiz, to help you to understand how strong your Imposter is, along with some tips and tricks to help you and my story.
Get your quiz via the link in my bio.
Olivia
#impostersyndrome #impostersyndromeisreal #comparisonfree #innercriticbegone #ComparisonFree #FemaleFoundersCollective #WomenInLeadership #WomenInLeadershipRoles #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork #ValueYourselfFirst
You see something, your imposter is triggered and along comes a big and almost traumatic dose of comparisonitis. Ugh.
Save these tips for when you next feel triggered comparing yourself to another.
No comparison. You are already perfect.
Olivia
#BeBraveBeYou #ConfidenceIsContagious #ShowUpStandOut #ConfidenceCreator #ConfidenceInsideOut #ConfidenceBuilding #BuildYourConfidence #WisdomWithin #impostersyndrome #impostersyndromeisreal#comparisonfree #innercriticbegone #ComparisonFree #comparisonitis #comparison #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #nocomparison #selfesteembuilding #StopComparingYourself #BeGentleWithYourself #CorporateWomen #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork #WomenInBusinessUK
You see something, your imposter is triggered and along comes a big and almost traumatic dose of comparisonitis. Ugh.
Save these tips for when you next feel triggered comparing yourself to another.
No comparison. You are already perfect.
Olivia
#BeBraveBeYou #ConfidenceIsContagious #ShowUpStandOut #ConfidenceCreator #ConfidenceInsideOut #ConfidenceBuilding #BuildYourConfidence #WisdomWithin #impostersyndrome #impostersyndromeisreal#comparisonfree #innercriticbegone #ComparisonFree #comparisonitis #comparison #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #nocomparison #selfesteembuilding #StopComparingYourself #BeGentleWithYourself #CorporateWomen #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork #WomenInBusinessUK
Are you making these mistakes too when negotiating flexibility?
1. Not doing the right preparation ahead of your meeting. As I recently shared in an interview with The Telegraph`s Body & Soul magazine (link in bio), you`re not asking for a holiday.
Here`s the excerpt: “Remember that negotiating flexibility is effectively negotiating the terms of your contract — it’s not asking for a holiday — and so it does require some pre-conversation preparation,”
2. Doing your preparation for your conversation the night before. You may need to prepare a business case so allow for adequate time.
3. Not knowing if anyone else in your company or department does flexible working. Do you have proof? Industry sources help too.
4. Explaining how it benefits you, and not being able to articulate how it will benefit your company. Remember you`re going for a win:win here where both parties benefit.
5. Not articulating what flexible work you`d like to do clearly. So often I`ll meet with clients and their request has become complex and confusing. Keep it simple!
If you`ve negotiated flexibility, what would you add? Share your tips below ⬇️
Olivia x
Ps If you want help negotiating your flexible work, contact me about my template letter you can use and a one-off coaching session to help you prepare with confidence. It`ll save you so much time! Send me a DM for more.
#compressedworkweek #compressedworkschedule #condensedhours #flexibleworking #flexiblework #flexappeal #LifeOfAWorkingMum #MumInBusiness #WorkingMumLife #UKMums #MumsBossUK #HerBusiness #MotherhoodGoals #UKMumSquad #MoreThanAMum #CareerCoaching #CareerPath #GoAfterYourDreams #GroupCoaching #GetUnstuck #CareerGuidance #CareerPlanning
Are you making these mistakes too when negotiating flexibility?
1. Not doing the right preparation ahead of your meeting. As I recently shared in an interview with The Telegraph`s Body & Soul magazine (link in bio), you`re not asking for a holiday.
Here`s the excerpt: “Remember that negotiating flexibility is effectively negotiating the terms of your contract — it’s not asking for a holiday — and so it does require some pre-conversation preparation,”
2. Doing your preparation for your conversation the night before. You may need to prepare a business case so allow for adequate time.
3. Not knowing if anyone else in your company or department does flexible working. Do you have proof? Industry sources help too.
4. Explaining how it benefits you, and not being able to articulate how it will benefit your company. Remember you`re going for a win:win here where both parties benefit.
5. Not articulating what flexible work you`d like to do clearly. So often I`ll meet with clients and their request has become complex and confusing. Keep it simple!
If you`ve negotiated flexibility, what would you add? Share your tips below ⬇️
Olivia x
Ps If you want help negotiating your flexible work, contact me about my template letter you can use and a one-off coaching session to help you prepare with confidence. It`ll save you so much time! Send me a DM for more.
#compressedworkweek #compressedworkschedule #condensedhours #flexibleworking #flexiblework #flexappeal #LifeOfAWorkingMum #MumInBusiness #WorkingMumLife #UKMums #MumsBossUK #HerBusiness #MotherhoodGoals #UKMumSquad #MoreThanAMum #CareerCoaching #CareerPath #GoAfterYourDreams #GroupCoaching #GetUnstuck #CareerGuidance #CareerPlanning
A client winning personally and professionally. That`s exactly why The Women`s Vault exists. To help you beat your workplace barriers, build confidence and find balance.
Thanks Kerri for your words. I`m thrilled that you find yourself in a positive space.
Olivia
#CareerCoaching #CareerPath #GoAfterYourDreams #SettingIntentions #CareerJourney #BeBetterThanYesterday #GroupCoaching #GetUnstuck #CareerGuidance #CareerPlanning #FemaleFoundersCollective #WomenInLeadership #WomenInLeadershipRoles #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork #ValueYourselfFirst
A client winning personally and professionally. That`s exactly why The Women`s Vault exists. To help you beat your workplace barriers, build confidence and find balance.
Thanks Kerri for your words. I`m thrilled that you find yourself in a positive space.
Olivia
#CareerCoaching #CareerPath #GoAfterYourDreams #SettingIntentions #CareerJourney #BeBetterThanYesterday #GroupCoaching #GetUnstuck #CareerGuidance #CareerPlanning #FemaleFoundersCollective #WomenInLeadership #WomenInLeadershipRoles #CorporateWomen #9ToThrive #BusinessCoachForWomen #LeadershipTips #ConfidenceAtWork #CareerSuccess #ConfidenceAtWork #ValueYourselfFirst
Life as a working mother is so intense. The juggle… it couldn`t be more real. But do you know, the gift to create the balance you need comes from within.
And it happens when you create boundaries.
At work and at home. Boundaries. To put yourself first. So that you can be the best version of yourself both at work and at home. Because a tired Mum reaching the edge of burnout is actually no good to anyone.
Put yourself first.
If you need more help on managing the juggle, the Working Mum`s toolkit could be just what is needed. I created it. To help you. It now contains over 30 tools & resources to help you balance family, work and you. With confidence tips, boundary setting, imposter fighting, burnout prevention, weekly schedule setting, wind down routines, mum guilt and much more.
It`s only £37.
Find out more via the link in my bio.
Olivia
#WomenSupportingOtherWomen #lifeofaworkingmum #mumguilt #mumguiltisreal #workingmumlife #workingmumsrock #workingmumslife #MotherToMother #MumToMum #MumsThatBoss #workfromhomemum #workfromhomeuk #bossladiesmindset #Workfromwherever #homeofficegoals #WorkLifeJuggle #WorkingMummas #MumsWhoHustle #MumsThatWork #JuggleStruggle #CantPourFromAnEmptyCup #LifeAsAMum #MotherhoodCaptured #MamaCoach #MentalLoadOfMotherhood #WorkingMummas
Life as a working mother is so intense. The juggle… it couldn`t be more real. But do you know, the gift to create the balance you need comes from within.
And it happens when you create boundaries.
At work and at home. Boundaries. To put yourself first. So that you can be the best version of yourself both at work and at home. Because a tired Mum reaching the edge of burnout is actually no good to anyone.
Put yourself first.
If you need more help on managing the juggle, the Working Mum`s toolkit could be just what is needed. I created it. To help you. It now contains over 30 tools & resources to help you balance family, work and you. With confidence tips, boundary setting, imposter fighting, burnout prevention, weekly schedule setting, wind down routines, mum guilt and much more.
It`s only £37.
Find out more via the link in my bio.
Olivia
#WomenSupportingOtherWomen #lifeofaworkingmum #mumguilt #mumguiltisreal #workingmumlife #workingmumsrock #workingmumslife #MotherToMother #MumToMum #MumsThatBoss #workfromhomemum #workfromhomeuk #bossladiesmindset #Workfromwherever #homeofficegoals #WorkLifeJuggle #WorkingMummas #MumsWhoHustle #MumsThatWork #JuggleStruggle #CantPourFromAnEmptyCup #LifeAsAMum #MotherhoodCaptured #MamaCoach #MentalLoadOfMotherhood #WorkingMummas
